the heart has reasons that reason does not recognize. especially when it comes to love. when you're in love, nothing else seems to matter. but as you fall from cloud 9, the difference in upbringing, race, language and religion becomes awkardly obvious... then comes the sudden realization that this relationship may not be as heavenly as you first thought...
intercultural relationships have always been a topic of controversy in families. it's looked upon with sideway glances. members of the family would argue that many challenges come with intercultural relationships. the challenges may be intangibles but they are as real as ever. challenges such as religious and political differences, cultural traditions and household customs. on top of that, there may be difficulty in communication with each other and with in-laws, the approval of the respective families, gender roles and expectations, individual goals, raising children....
so... where does one begin to unravel the complexities of an intercultural relationship?
**i did not say intracultural relationships have no challenges!
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haha - i like that last comment!
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i wrote a long comment about heritage and ethnic culture. but then i realised i wasn't actually adressing the issue raised. so i had to delete it and start again.
culture really needs to be defined - and that is, the way that "ONE will live their life", including beliefs and behaviours. but "culture" is usually referring to a group of people, and i was assuming you were talking about an ethnic group, but "culture" doesn't actually mean that, so i shouldn't assume it!; it could mean any group of people with the same behaviour and beliefs.
so, unless, chingy, you clarify what you mean by "culture" then it's hard to know exactly what you mean. because with ANY relationship you will face differences, even from those within your own personal culture.
Hmm I don’t see this post as being critical enough of the rigors experienced by intercultural relationships. Maybe people out there can elaborate and/or expand on some of the issues raised by the author.
Chingy has definitely painted out how raw the gauntlet can be when inter cultural, which in most cases are/epitomized by inter-racial, couples try to take things to the next level. The rose coloured goggles are well and truly off by that stage, and those mentioned challenges will seem like a mountainous feat, but ppl still get through.
Most of the time I think it has to do with the level of commitment these couples want to invest into it. It’s easier to give up and pull the plug, just an excuse really to hit the eject button. Ppl just have to “..work at it, like a drug addict..”. And if they really want to go be in each others life, they don’t necessarily need the blessings of relatives or any others.
People are different for a reason, and its fun to learn about something other than what u already know. Imagine having to eat the same food all your life you wouldn’t know what else is out there that u might enjoy more, sometimes u might feel like some “Indian” or a “latino” > <.
pls let chingy relax and write her own thoughts down without any pressure.
love all ur comments but it's getting too serious
we could set up a discussion board or a forum for discussing controversial topics if you all likes =)
simple - i believe you should love a person for who he / she is, not WHAT he / she is.
if culture and religion get in the way, then live with it, and if bothers you too much, then it's either:
1. you don't love the person enough
2. you're letting it bother you
3. you're letting other people's judgment get to you
so easy - love the person, and embrace DIVERSITY.
n u are....
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